Couples CounselingUse Soft Startup Techniques for Tough Conversations

Use Soft Startup Techniques for Tough Conversations

Use Soft Startup Techniques for Tough Conversations

If every fight you have with your partner ends the same way, maybe it’s time to try a new approach.

Sometimes all you need is a better way to frame the issue.

Here are four easy tools one partner can use to bring up a difficult subject with their mate.

  • Voice the complaint without blame
  • Explain the thing, using “I”, not “you”
  • State the facts without evaluation or judgment
  • Be polite and appreciative

In this video, Murray & Allie talk about using Soft Startups as a way to bring up an issue with your partner that may keep the discussion from turning into a fight.

Here’s How to Use Soft Startups

Download this brief tutorial on how to have a tough discussion that doesn’t devolve into an argument.

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