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If every fight you have with your partner ends the same way, maybe it's time to try a new approach.

Sometimes all you need is a better way to frame the issue.

Here are four easy tools one partner can use to bring up a difficult subject with their mate.

  • Voice the complaint without blame
  • Explain the thing, using "I", not "you"
  • State the facts without evaluation or judgment
  • Be polite and appreciative

In this video, Murray & Allie talk about using Soft Startups as a way to bring up an issue with your partner that may keep the discussion from turning into a fight.

Here's How to Use Soft Startups

Download this brief tutorial on how to have a tough discussion that doesn't devolve into an argument.