Reconnecting on Valentine’s Day

One way to reconnect with your partner is to return to the kinds of conversations you had when you were in the process of falling in love.

Sharing thoughtful answers to these questions allows each of you to be open and vulnerable with the other. It can help rebuild the closeness and connection you felt earlier in your relationship.

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30‐year‐old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

If you find the distance between the two of you is too great to tackle on your own, consider a session with a couple’s therapist to guide your conversation.