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The Couples College Course -- easy as 1 - 2 - 3 !

Things with your partner are okay... but maybe could be better.

You love them with everything you've got,
but sometimes,
you're not sure you like them.

You can get good at partnering -- just like you get good at other things!

Build the Skills for Life-Long Relationship Happiness

  1. Maintaining Friendship - Always
    Staying connected, levels of influence and sexuality
  2. Dealing with Conflict
    Why conflict happens, why we get stuck, how to get better at resolution
  3. Sharing Dreams & Developing Shared Meaning
    Dreams for the future about lifestyle, about family, and if our visions are different, how can they come together

No Boring Class Lectures!

You'll have frank conversations in a comfortable, cozy setting.

You'll learn together, with direction from Allie and Murray.

You'll practice in the session, so it will be easier to use the techniques at home, when you need them.

 

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Allie Caffyn, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor for 20+ years, married 25+ years

Murray Dabby, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker for 30+ years, married 25+ years

Learn why some marriages succeed, while others fail

Join the online session and understand right away what you're doing right - and what you're doing wrong. You'll leave with information you can use immediately to get your relationship back on track.

Free Online Couples' Group 

Friday, July 10, 2020 at 10 am

RSVP to get connection details.

Curious about what you'll learn together? Allie & Murray explain.

The Couples College Course is an Easy Commitment to Make

  • 10-month course that meets once per month for two hours
  • Always the second Wednesday of the month
  • Learn simple techniques to get past where you're getting stuck now

Course Goals:

  • Turn a negative home environment into one where fondness, admiration and love are the norm.

  • Learn the skills to fight fairly and constructively. De-escalate conflict and reframe resentment so it leads to growth for both of you.

  • Learn to understand each other’s worlds....What excites us, brings us joy and helps us feel connected.

  • Create a partnership where each person’s dreams, goals and aspirations are respected, understood and honored.

  • Understand the power of "we" in making room for the legacies, values and rituals each person brings to the relationship.

  • Explore sexual intimacy. How often are we having sex? Is it enough? How do you get the sex you want?

  • Learn to maintain intimacy in a busy world with a busy life.

See How the Course Works -Join a Free Online Couples' Group

  • Hear about the skills that will be shared

  • Meet other couples who are seeking knowledge too

  • See how Allie & Murray share information and ask questions

  • Experience how a group works

 

Free Online Couples' Group

  • July 10, 2020 at 10 am

RSVP to get connection details

Course Cost

  • $250 per couple per meeting
  • $250 deposit holds your space in the course

Course Location

  • Wednesdays, 6:30 pm to 8:30 pm, beginning September 9, 2020

The course will be offered online if social distancing requirements are still in place in September, 2020.

If restrictions are lifted, a location will be listed here.

Couples College Graduates Share Their Insights

Sydney and I have been married now for almost a year. We took your 10 month course prior to because we were in love, had a child prior to our marriage, and wanted to know how to work together to be at our best when we were faced with challenges.

Your course sincerely reinforced our positive attributes together and also taught us new ways to handle common issues that happen to most couples—including us!

Instead of fielding our issues with our own precognitions, we are now able to draw on your research based, proven methods to work through challenges and strengthen our relationship in the process.

All told, there is no price we could put on stability, resilience, and the knowledge that most couples have similar challenges to others and there are proven ways to work through them as a team.

--Sydney & Chad

I left a marriage that failed because neither of us were able to be intimate, so that over time we grew apart until eventually we were in a lifeless relationship that existed solely to raise our children, and in which we were both emotionally dead.  I did not want to repeat this in my next relationship, and so my new partner and I came to Couples College to work on the skills required to be in intimate relationship with each other at the beginning of our relationship.  Over the ten months of the class we learned and practiced techniques and skills that were invaluable, and we really benefited from the conversation with other class participants of our respective experiences.  This was a completely invaluable class.  I can think of two or three separate occasions working on exercises with my partner in the class itself when we had blinding "Aha!" moments and saw clearly what was underneath what promised to be persistent problems in our relationship.  Of course we had many other moments like this when working together on our homework.  Seeing through our issues and potential issues with such clarity and cultivating the skills to talk and stay in relationship through them are wonderful gifts, and we both offer our enormous gratitude to the designers and instructors, Allie and Murray.

--Gareth

I learned to listen to, accept, and have empathy for what my partner is feeling, and stop focusing on defending my own actions.

Now I will take the time to show my partner how much I appreciate our relationship.

Now I know that I'm entitled to be angry, and my partner can now hear me and I can see that they do.

I discovered that what's important is how my actions feel to my partner, not my explanation for my behavior.

Murray and Allie taught me that a successful relationship is not defined by each of us having stopped all the things that made the other made. It's knowing how to kindly respond when someone messes up.

I finally understand how to be more open to repair and how to be less critical of my partner.

I was astonished to learn how much I didn't know about my partner!

I understand why I need to control my frustration with my partner and be more patient in helping him understand my perspective.

I learned to stop feeling like I'm never good enough, and I understand that I should focus on how my actions can affect my partner's feelings, and then to acknowledge them.

Sample the skills and meet Murray and Allie...

...before you decide on the course