September Couples Tip ~ PLAY
You may be surprised to know that play contributes to our feeling securely attached. Brainstorm with your partner about fun activities to share over Labor Day and this September. We encourage you to get silly, goofy, and laugh hard. For inspiration, look at this list, and for the other 86 ideas, go to this link,
https://smartcouples.ifas.ufl.edu/dating/having-fun-and-staying-close/101-fun-dating-ideas/
- Plan and carry out a scavenger hunt or treasure hunt for your partner.
- Go tubing, kayaking, or canoeing together.
- Go fruit picking together.
- Enjoy a candlelight dinner together at your home or apartment. Dress up!
- Go for a bike ride together.
- Go bowling together. (Feeling light-hearted? Try “bowling with a twist” –between the legs, on one leg, left-handed, etc.)
- Attend a local festival together.
- Go chalking—draw weird pictures and funny or encouraging messages on the sidewalk with chalk. (Great idea for college students on campus.)
- Find somewhere you can feed the ducks together (note: it’s better for the ducks if you avoid bread and feed birdseed or grapes instead).
- Get back in touch with your inner child and finger paint together.
- Draw pictures (or caricatures!) of each other.
- Plan a future date you can go on together with a strict budget limit ($5, $10).
- Put together unusual outfits from a thrift store and go out while “in character.”
- Attend a free class together at your local library.
- Buy an inexpensive face painting kit and paint each others’ faces (now this is a selfie opportunity!)
Looking for everyday ways to connect? In her brief post on Five Fun (& Free!) Ways to Connect with Your Partner by attachment expert Diane Poole Heller PhD, suggest we,
- Eat dinner without our phones
- Gaze into each other’s eyes
- Hug at a long time, at least 30 seconds
- Hold hands
- Give each other a hand massage
