We fight about everything
Big things. Little things. Everything hits a nerve, and before you know it, you're screaming at each other over taking out the trash.
You feel like you're on the edge of turning and walking away -- saying "I just don't care anymore."
There's good news here. Fighting means there's passion for staying together -- now you need tools to fight and make progress.
Fighting can bring you closer together
Not that long ago, therapists were trained to de-escalate fighting by creating a 'safe environment' in the office for couples to talk things out. It was a good idea but it didn't help the couple at all once they got home and didn't have the therapist to mediate.
The Couples College curriculum teaches couples to understand that fighting isn't the problem and provides the tools needed to communicate -- to hear and to be heard.
- Communicating with affection
- Learning to fight fairly
- Practicing forgiveness
- The art of compromise
Is This a Fair Fight?
Consider these questions and answer truthfully. Understanding what's happening in the fight will make it easier to be heard.