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Fall Course Begins on September 9, 2020

When Love is Not Enough


The Couples College will move online until further notice, to support efforts for maintaining social distancing. For private individual or couples therapy, Tele-mental Health sessions are available. Reach out to us --  therapy does not have to happen face-to-face.

Beginning in September, 2020
Couples College 2020/2021
10-Month Course

$220 per month for 10 months
  • 10 sessions (two hours each)
  • Dates: second Wednesday each month, beginning September, 2020
  • 6:30 to 8:30 pm
  • Course Overview
  • Limited scholarships available.
    Call us to discuss.

Beginning in March, 2021
Partnership Skills Group for Men
March - June

$90 per person per month for four months
  • Four sessions (two hours each)
  • Will meet on the first Tuesday of the month, beginning in March
  • 6:30 pm to 8:30 pm
  • Group Description
  • Limited to 10 men
    per group
  • Limited scholarships available.
    Call us to discuss.

Beginning in February, 2021
Couples College QuickStart
5-Month Course

$440 per month for 5 months
  • Five sessions (four hours each)
  • Will meet on Saturdays -
    February through June
  • 9:30 am to 1:30 pm
  • Course Details
  • Early Bird Discount Available until January 31, 2021
  • Limited scholarships available.
    Call us to discuss.

Are you interested but unsure if this is right for you? Come to a free online couples' group!

Learn why some marriages succeed, while others fail

Join the online session and understand right away what you're doing right - and what you're doing wrong. You'll leave with information you can use immediately to get your relationship back on track.

Free Online Couples' Group 

Friday, July 10, 2020 at 10 am

RSVP to get connection details.

"From knowledge springs not only love, but the fortitude to weather marital storms."

--Dr. John Gottman, psychology professor and author

Sample Exercise

As we journey through marriage -- through childbirth, aging parents, loss, new jobs, marital conflict, we stop taking the time to update our knowledge of our partners’ world.

We forget to connect - to ask questions like we did when we first began dating. 

In the "Love Maps" exercise, each person uses questions to dial in to their partner's current world. Their responses helps reignite their curiosity about who their partner is, what's important to them and how they have changed during the relationship.

  • Who is my favorite relative?
  • What stress am I facing right now?
  • What is one of my greatest fears or disaster scenarios?
  • What is my favorite movie?
  • What food do I hate?
  • What did I do yesterday? What do you remember?

What happens next?

We see couples begin to relax, to laugh with each other, to smile and to get physically closer as they reconnect.

Couples realize they stopped taking time to talk to each other. We watch them discover the power of curiosity and friendship. They make a plan for themselves, even in the midst of their demanding schedules.

Our Participants Share Their Insights

Sydney and I have been married now for almost a year. We took your 10 month course prior to because we were in love, had a child prior to our marriage, and wanted to know how to work together to be at our best when we were faced with challenges.

Your course sincerely reinforced our positive attributes together and also taught us new ways to handle common issues that happen to most couples—including us!

Instead of fielding our issues with our own precognitions, we are now able to draw on your research based, proven methods to work through challenges and strengthen our relationship in the process.

All told, there is no price we could put on stability, resilience, and the knowledge that most couples have similar challenges to others and there are proven ways to work through them as a team.

--Sydney & Chad

I left a marriage that failed because neither of us were able to be intimate, so that over time we grew apart until eventually we were in a lifeless relationship that existed solely to raise our children, and in which we were both emotionally dead.  I did not want to repeat this in my next relationship, and so my new partner and I came to Couples College to work on the skills required to be in intimate relationship with each other at the beginning of our relationship.  Over the ten months of the class we learned and practiced techniques and skills that were invaluable, and we really benefited from the conversation with other class participants of our respective experiences.  This was a completely invaluable class.  I can think of two or three separate occasions working on exercises with my partner in the class itself when we had blinding "Aha!" moments and saw clearly what was underneath what promised to be persistent problems in our relationship.  Of course we had many other moments like this when working together on our homework.  Seeing through our issues and potential issues with such clarity and cultivating the skills to talk and stay in relationship through them are wonderful gifts, and we both offer our enormous gratitude to the designers and instructors, Allie and Murray.


This class properly identifies issues that many relationships endure and gives proven techniques of how to work through those challenges together as a couple acting for the betterment of the relationship.
- Chad, married 5 years

Class has been a catalyst to our relationship working.

- Christine, married 5 years

It's one of the most practical and effective workshops I've ever done.

- Lorena, Therapist, married 32 years 

By attending this workshop you will absolutely learn more about your partner and will understand more about why something is or isn’t working in your relationship.

- Christina,  psychotherapist,  lesbian partnership

Murray and Allie taught me that a successful relationship is not defined by each of us having stopped all the things that made the other made. It's knowing how to kindly respond when someone messes up.

Excellent guide to relationship, eye opening

- Gwen, social worker, 1 year partnered, trying to figure the future out 

I think every couple before marriage should take this class. Our arguments declined and we were able to bounce back.

- Meg, teacher, married 6 years

I understand why I need to control my frustration with my partner and be more patient in helping him understand my perspective.

This class helped implement great exercises and practices for our marriage. I will make an honest effort to really focus using "I" instead of "U" conflict can be great, it's just how you do it.

- Sydney, married  3 years

Choose the challenge in your relationship

Why do we fight so much?
Can we recover from infidelity?
Why are we drifting apart?
Are we truly right for each other?
How can I explain this?